Ms Nikks Drops a "Feel Good" Jewel

You know I need to provide a lil positivity in the middle of the madness, so straight for Ms.Nikks blog comes will reminder to treat that special guy in your life every so often and show him that his struggle isn't in vain. Here are her words and please drop by her spot for more jewels.

“Is there any boys around that know how to make a girl feel? That wanna make a girl feel, make her feel good?” -Teairra Mari

I remember hearing this song a few years ago and it made me think of how much we women complain. Myself included, hence the we. We are always complaining about not understanding men or why they do the things they do. We are a miserable set of beings, us women. Some most days a man can’t catch a break! We nag, bitch, whine, and complain about a lot of shit.

For generations the Black man has suffered attack upon attack on his character, strength, and masculinity. Not giving them an excuse, but watching your women raped, your children ripped from their mother’s breasts, and auctioned like farm equipment can do that to any man. He had to stand still and watch. The Black woman had to be strong and hold it together. So we grew up with generations of women saying “I don’t need you, I can do for myself!” We need to stop that talk and lift the man up. Learn how to let a man be a man.

Sometimes we need to do the things for them that we want them to do for us. I suggest the following for starters:

1. Run him a hot bath when he gets homes.

2. Next time he’s at the kitchen counter or looking out the window thinking, go up behind him and put our arms around him. Hold him tight. (Approach with caution, if he’s been in the big house, we don’t want flashbacks of Big Mike trying to be up on him. I’m jus’ sayin…)

3. Let him rest between your legs on the couch and rest his head on your bosom.

4. Watch him while he sleeps and tell him how peaceful he looks when he’s asleep.

5. Send him flowers or a card, a blank card, fill it with your own thoughts of him. What you love about him, your fondest memory of him, etc.

Those are just a few suggestions to MAKE HIM FEEL GOOD! A man might not be able to express exactly what he wants from us, but at the end of the day, they want the same thing most human beings want and need. LOVE, UNDERSTANDING, COMPASSION, AND ACCEPTANCE. Stay tuned for Pt. II

Nikks :P