Simple Question for the women. How do you go about getting the attention and interest of a guy you want? Not talking high school crush but you see someone you have serious interest in. If you want it to evolve what do you do to make it known both verbally and thru actions.
(And please none of that "I don't chase men bullshit")
Sunday, October 25, 2009
She knows what she wants so how will she get it?
Posted by NightFall914 at 11:53 PM
Labels: Curious, Female ways, Questions, Relationships
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i ask him out.
simple gestures I think capture the attention i want. Cooking. Listening. Knowing what they like and doing it. sexy heels. I personally think its a mind game because men like confidence, or so I've been told. And it seems to work. Nothing too desperate or drastic. Just the little things that I know they pay attention to.
I'm so mad...I had a brilliant response, it got deleted somehow...blogger is fucking w me grrrr
But yea as shy as I am.. I will usually look for non-verbal cues like the starring contest, then go in for the kill. I can be pretty direct but my problem is when I'm direct its usually because its sex-driven and I'm hungry.. I would much rather be chased..bollywood style.
it's complicated. i wouldn't go as far as saying that i don't chase men but for the most part they approach me first. i have only been the initiator in 2 of my "courtships". with the first guy i was very vocal about things [i learned to stop being afraid of rejection long ago]. i expressed that i was interested in him, we flirted, etc. with the second guy i kind of built a report with him [he's my barber smh, yes i have a fade] then after some time i took the pussy route and text him lol.
rejection plays a big role in women's timidness. even when my girls and i have our nights out we'll giggle and ogle but nobody has the balls to actually approach a guy. and yes men fear rejection as well but as a woman when you're rejected a lot of shit runs through your mind...am i not pretty enough? am i fat? is my hair not right? [lol] with men it's like oh she turned me down...fuck that bitch! and they're on their merry way.
Depends on a lot of things. If it's a friend and I want more. I drop hints. I initiate a conversation and steer it in that direction.
If it's a stranger and I want to get to know him, I hold his gaze just long enough. I find a way to be alone to give him time and opportunity to approach me.
I've never had to full out approach someone and let them know verbally I like them. They usually pick up on it and take the lead. I'm a tad bit old fashioned with first encounters. I think a man should be a man in that way. Even when he's not fully aware he was steered in that direction.
@ Daddy NightFall, The answer is actually quite simple... a woman who sees something she wants she should approach it with caution & grace.
Life is short....any woman who says she's not willing to chase a man, is a lonely bitch who don't get enough dick and probably never experienced good dick and a mind blowing orgasm ever in life (poor baby).
Wait too long.....and a precious experiece may have been over-looked and underappreciated.
I could say more but...it's 2am and I'm BEAT!
Forever Fabulous,
The Single Dame
I play it cool but when the moment shows itself, I let it be known.
Then I back off. The mystery and challenge in the beginning gives way to chase. Sometimes he doesn't even know he is chasing.
Nice. Great variety of approaches.
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