It's no mystery that as a guy same things are very simple about us. We like to be visually stimulated and we like to hear things. Dirty whispers, pet names whatever....hell just say what it is you wanna do. All I'm saying is that if u want a guy to feel wanted there's no reason you should fail at making that happen. The resources are too vast. So if you can't keep his attention then you may need to turn your creativity and imagination up a few notches.
Shout out to Ms.Nikks for sparking this thought the other day.
And with that simple statement it now makes me ask a question.Which would you prefer? A partner you are attracted to but who is weak when it comes to acting on and initiating more activity or a person your not as attracted to but who goes all out to in the "Sight and Sound" Dept?
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
Sight and Sound
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I like a natural flow of things...so sometimes I like to take the reins and then there are times I wanna be surprised, so I fall back...it all comes down to communication and the type of bond you have with that person and not ncessarily the looks to me...If I cant look at you and you're trying to make me wet...we have an unbalanced equation. its like throwing water on top of my flame.
I want the visual, the touch and the excitment 360 seduction all or nothing.
The majority of the time, I'm very shy and submissive. This comes in handy for those moments I decide to be dominant. Switching it up gives a nice arousal caused by shock, like "WOW, I didn't know she had that in her!! well helloooo Miss Frankie! RAWR!" lol
It works both ways...I enjoy when a guy is very sexually dominating, but sometimes it's nice when I'm able to let him sit back while I take charge.
It's always good to switch things up a bit. As long as I know the guy is feelin' me, I don't mind being the initiator. My problem is distinguishing between whether a person is being sexually shy because that's the role that wanna take on for the night, or if it's because he/she just isn't into you. Life would be so much simpler if everyone just expressed what they wanted LOL
I want it ALL.
I think it's possible to have both, it's rare, but possible. I can't be with someone I'm not physically attracted to or my physical parts will not comply with whatever he's trying to do to me.
The reason I say it's rare is because I often hear people complaining that the guy is almost perfect but he can't shag. Or he can shag, but he's not going anywhere in life.
So do I go for the latter and empower him to be the best him or go with the ambitious guy who isn't turning me on, fake it?
I'm with Miss S. i want it all as well. I cant choose. Well I've been in a situation where I had to choose between the two...I chose the attractive one. Im all about how I feel when i look at a person, that alone can do it for me.[I can always teach him!] Maybe I'm a little shallow...! I dont want to be out with a guy I'm not attracted to..point blank period. But kicking inside..different story. Smh at myself! Good question!
Well ideally we would all "want it all" but how many people fall for or develop feelings for someone who lacks important things yet your emotions don't let you simply walk away.
@ NightFall I have vivid examples of just that! As I gain more experience with life lol aka get older I'm realizing that certain things are just more important than others. I definitely need to be physically attracted to my dude but! if certain things are lacking in personality such as him Not being able to be more dominant or he can't be sensitive at all with me I'm quickly turned off or Flags start to go UP. So like the other ladies I'd love to have the best of both worlds and I think I am on the road to doing that by compromising.. like excusing the fact that dude might not even touch my 6'3" and above "a lil light weight fetish" I may have "wink" lol but really its striking that good balance and as you learn over time some things can more than make up for other things!
Balance is key, without sounding indecisive.
If I had a preference though, I'd go for a man who isn't scared to initiate.
As you know, because we are friends, I have recently gotten out of dealing with the former....someone I am highly attracted to, yet I had to initiate 98% of the time. I will say this, depending on the situation, being with someone like that can, at times, make you question yourself and how much they truly want you. In particular, if you're putting yourself out there and the other person is not.
I am the aggressor. It is my personality. Being that, I am also a women who appreciates when a man takes charge and goes after what he wants in life. This includes me...
Only after dealing, so intimately, with a situation like this, I will say that I prefer a go-getter. If you can put someone with my power, in my place to make me submissive, that is a turn on.
@ Evie good point. I think it takes going thru a situation where the attraction isn't match be the returned initiation to make these decision less "simple" From the outside looking in you most likely assume that you'll be good going with the stronger attraction but experience tells what the downside of that may be.
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