Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Interesting Question....Do you have to call?????


A friend of mine on FB posted the following statement and I figured I'd throw it out to y'all and see what you think. I have my opinion on this and it varies depending on the circumstance. Should I see y'all commenting on this then I'll add my thoughts on it.



"Is After-sex Etiquette dead? Whether you want to have babies with your most recent bed partner or never see them again, fact is, you've just experienced an intimate act together. And common courtesy demands acknowledgement of the act - preferably with a phone call.... You should never send a text message after (good) sex, Lol."

6 comments:

Lourdezz said...

Lol I wanna hear your opinion on this topic Mr.! I totally agree with you when you say the situation varies depending on the circumstance! But, Point Blank! If we fuck, and I'm FEELING YOU (which I would be, if I'm fuckin you) I BETTA be receiving a call!!! Lol Like maybe its just me, but if its good, and you totally enjoyed yourself (him included) shouldn't you wanna share that with the person you just gave yourself too?! A simple " Yo babe, I enjoyed you, your super fuckin sexxy/the freakiest bitch I eva met in my LIFE. I totally wanna get to know you more, on so many levels, ect" Lol Or whateva he's gonna say...feel me?! Lol. I can't speak on NOT hittin someone up after sex, because you REALLY weren't feeling them/the sex was trash, because I don't fuck people I'm not "in to" simple. And if the cock is WACK ima know so within the first few seconds, and that's where shit ENDS! Haha.....so it would be no "I'm not hittin him back, cause the dick is wack" nigga wouldn't have gotten that far! Lol

Goddess Intellect said...

Hi there,
I'm not a phone person...in fact if the sex was that good I'm probably a) comatose or b)out doing ish like working or being fabulous.
A txt saying I miss you or something like that wouldnt be insulting to me...but thats only if we are both txt ppl...if I know you are a phone person I will try my best to communicate with you that way.
I didnt know there was after-sex ettiquette...I thought it was just called a second date...I joke :)
Great Post :)

.MochaSista. said...

To be honest it doesn't matter to me if I get a fonecall after sex. I'm a texter & now of days that's how a lot of ppl are communicating. So wen I get a text saying "damn baby ya pussy was so good" I take that as a compliment and keep it movin. Texts replace all the long pauses and the awkwardness that ppl have during conversations. Texts get str8 to the point and that's the way I like it. *kanye shrug* #I'mjustsayin . . .

Frankie said...

I agree with Goddess 100%

NightFall914 said...

Interesting comments thus far.

I think phone and text are interchangeable these days depending on how the person is.

Now ideally yeah communication after the fact would seem as the "right" thing. If its a relationship then that would go with out saying simply because you've been talking on a consistent basis anyway.

What makes this more of a gray area is if the relationship isn't strong. Perhaps not regarding the ladies that have commented here but many a female today plays the I can do what a guy does card and if you're gonna wear those shoes then you have to walk in them and that means the emotional needs that are so important may not get addressed. You wanna just have ya ill jump off, humpington buddy then if the following day takes his attention away from contacting you that's just part of the game.

Basically how you come into things is how its gonna be after the fact. If you enter the bedroom off animal urges, lust and very few defined guidelines you can't all of a sudden expect the proper treatment afterward...it becomes a crap shoot as different guys work different ways.

khaki la'docker said...

co-signing with goddess and frankie on this one...

 
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