It never ceases to amaze me the level of self righteousness that dwells on these Internets. Keeping with a Hump Day minded tone I glance through the social networks and wonder how the hell do these folk calm so much knowledge on the workings of the opposite without an actual track record of success. It makes me wonder where is the separation of a person with experience vs a person with success. Think about it. You can have experience with the opposite sex but if the results were failed relationships how valuable is the advice you can give. "If you dont do x.y.z don't be surprise if you lose your partner." That's a pretty bold statement. Now when I read things like this I never see any acknowledgement of the personal connection. What I mean is that if you tell me "Hey I had relationships where I didn't do x,y,z and it negatively effected things." That's something I can relate and connect to because you're not telling me something devoid of that personal link. The more you attempt to teach, preach, educate or advice the more you need to establish where you yourself learned, experienced and hopefully succeeded with the things you're telling me.
It's easy to talk it. Many folk are great with words and can make anything sound good. I look deeper. I look through the words. The blow jobs tips, sex advice and relationships "rules" many times are more of a smoke screen for personal insecurity than they are tidbits of help. Look deeper. Get below the surface......
2 comments:
When I write a post on something serious about parenting or relations, heck just about anything I write is infused with humour so anyone reading knows that I'm not taking myself seriously for the most part. My concern is serious, but my suggestions are just that suggestions not golden rules.
I'm not expert, everything I write is based off of experiences unique to me. My posts aren't guidelines and I'd never call myself a relationship or lifestyle expert. That's just ridiculous. No one can tell anyone how to live. We all go through things even when those things are similar it's unique to each individual. Hence the reason I despise self help books. What works for you may or may NOT work for me or Tammy.
I hear you!
Thats my thing. The more you address others and attempt to show/tell folk how they should I act, I personally need to know how your living to be giving me this info.
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