Another RV Tour Our Moment......

As this point the college stops are done and its final weekend. The sense of accomplishment is slowly sinking in as I look over the Las Vegas strip. I'm a low key humble guy by nature yet this night was a type of celebration I'd never had before. Have I popped bottles before? Yes but that was usually for no real reason or its a birthday which is great but thats a common thing now. We were celebrating something that was a first for the Tribe. It was a first for us. A serious bench mark. A testament to the power of perseverance. There will never be another 1st Nomadness RV Tour.

 I wasn't overwhelmed but I definitely felt that pride in myself, Evita and this Tribe. I need to feel that again.....

How Long Before Introductions?????

Interesting question just presented to me...."How long is enough time before introducing a new partner to your Family & Friends. What about meeting your child?"

I may not be the best person to answer this. Most folk use time guidelines to frame their relationships. I dont factor in time. I do what I feel ready and comfortable to do. My belief is that at this point in my life, a romantic partner does not need to meet my parents unless I see her being a long term presence in my life. To me you rush all these introductions, then if things don't work out its break ups on multiple levels with all these people having their 2 cents about what happened. If I were to get into a relationship now it would be with marriage intentions, so if my goal is to be with you for life, stop worrying about when you meet people cuz you'll be dealing with the most important folk for life if things work out.

I dont have any kids but I think that is the most troublesome of the issues I see regarding this topic. Folk that just introduce their kids to any and everyone worry me. Love is great but it does make for stupid decisions and how kids view things differs greatly from how we do. They really don't need to be meeting every person you attempt to deal with but thats just me.......

They Deserve Better

There are lots of topics I have opinions on. Many I'm flexible on in terms of seeing multiple view points and angles. Recently, I've had more then a few convos about kids. My eventual desire to be a father and just parenthood in general. Within those chats always comes up my stance of planning and preparing for a child. It's often replied to with "There's never a perfect time for a child." or "I cant plan for something like that." I majority of the time consider that a cop out. I liken it to high cost purchase like a car or home. You may be in the position to put down a solid down payment but if you're not in a position to pay the monthly fees you will lose it. If you're not responsible enough to properly care for the vehicle or home it will have problems.

I owe it to my future children to be able to provide better then what I've current experienced. To do otherwise is selfish in my eyes. Yes there are exceptions but that is not what I see in today's world. I see sloppy moves covered up by the "I'm an adult" angle.

I dont buy.....I doubt I ever will.

The Cost of Victory???

Black Friday, A Different Day But Same Agenda. I'm Cool w/ It

Am I bothered by Black Friday? Nope not at all. It was ok to buy sneakers in May right?  No uproar when people blow that tax refund money on a new flat screen or laptop. If capitalism didnt make us blink any other time in the year (besides Valentine's Day, which folk love to rant about as well) then Black Friday is fine with me. This is America, making money is what most things are about.

 I say instead of disingenuous commentary. Control the  power of your dollar and support businesses you actually believe in.

It Get's Tiring........

Compromise has its place......it also has it's limits. There comes a time you just have to hold firm to your stance.

It's hard to remember the last time someone had to put in work for me. No I don't mean in terms of a hustle to get money. But when was the last time people went out of their way to make things work. No one apologizes. No one says "you know what I didn't mean to do that." No one says "let me make this a little easier for him." Everyone thinks what they do is right and the world needs to adjust to them. Most be nice to have that luxury Either I handle things for myself or I'm doing it for others. Even in moment so of self reflection I can admit that I assume people to have the same internal compass as me. The same value set and application of law. Nope, folk still all look out for self interest first. That's something I have to adapt within myself .

Lots of equity built up over these years, I guess it's time to cash in. I see a new method of operation on the horizon........ It's needed.....it's needed for me to remain good at what I do and who I am.....

Mirror Man.....Lets take a Look

My intentions are good BUT I do need to start taking a moment before I act to think if what I assume is good will have the results I desire  I'm honest enough to admit I do things that I feel will be helpful. But there have been times when I find my assumptions were wrong or at least a lil off and then I feel stupid like I should have known. I'm a super multitasker when I sit in front of the pc screen. no less then a dozen tabs open and 2-3 different browsers open.

Slow down Jason. Relax. Work smarter not harder........

I Truly Believe This

Test of Time

Many things change over time. Somethings slow down and drop in quality as your mentality evolves......but what of Sex? In my opinion sex is one of those things that has improved on many levels as time passes. A wider view of what is and isn't "allowed" open curiosity to new ideas, games, role play.......Is this just me?

Gotta Know How To Take It.....

Aiming for a productive day and a self application of a simple fact. As I open up to new views and perspectives I cant get too put off by folk telling me to just brush off, get over or move on from things that are sensitive to me but not so much to them. Its cant be taken too personal as we've all walked different paths.......

Does the Rule Still Apply?

"Never mix business with pleasure"

That's what we're told right? For years that made perfect sense to me and in truth it still does but as I look around I wonder if a change in how social relationships are developing is resulting in the need to adjust this rule. As so many of the women I know look up to and aim for Will & Jada or Jay & Bey like relationships, it strikes me that these folk are all about the interlocked paths of business and pleasure.

But I often say to folk that as ideal as it is I'm cautious of celeb watching. Multimillionaire problems at their highest. Back on planet Earth I've noticed another truth. On the common man level MANY people seem to break this "rule" and a regular basis. The secret office romance that really ain't a secret....the underground artist that's a lil too personal with his female manager....the photographer that seems to always date the models he encounters. It's usually kept confidential or at least people try too but it would seem mixing business and pleasure is a tried and true path to relations these days. I don't know if its wrong or right. People do what works for them.

It's also said that rules are made to be broken so perhaps this is just the natural order of things......

Final Hump Day Thoughts

Hope the day treated you well.....

So You Say.....

I've been quoted as saying that the world or at least America seems over sexed. As I think about that, is it more so that I need to experience more so I understand the claims of these folk with supposedly super human libidos.....or are their stories of have sex "all day" more true then I give credit for. I'm a worker so the idea of sex all day, while clearly pleasurable,  makes me 1st ask well are you both unemployed? Then just how is that possible? Do you stop for food? Do you sprinkle naps in between all this? I don't know.......enlighten me.

Dj Clue vs FunkMaster Flex **Aftermath Discussion Session**

People were talking all night about it when happened so whats the final thought.

Gotta Make Moves.......

............but the numbers just aren't adding up

Decisions, Decisions......

Part of me wants to address this matter and another part wants to leave it alone.

Perhaps I'll flip a coin........

A Guy Thing?????

 I remember the circumstances that I went through that led me to be able to separate my emotions from my actions. I thought that would in the end make me a better decision maker. For the majority of the time it has but when it hasn't damn the mistakes have been costly.......

Be Thankful Folks.........

Valentines Eve...lotta lames should be thankful their women are so blinded by loooove that they let y'all get away w/ murder....

All "I'm Sorry's" Aren't Good......

This is what NOT to do.........

Was talking with my boy about various thing and something came up that I never really though ton but does make sense. When you're younger you never wanna hurt your peoples. Family, Friends, etc you really do your best to never cause them pain or distress. At times you find yourself feeling sorry or apologetic for something when you really shouldn't. Yes you dont want to cause pain but at a point you realize that all you can do is be you and if you remain constant with that I cant take on the views, perspectives and thoughts of others.

My boy said "I not apologizing for nothing just cause your upset if I didn't do anything wrong." 

It sounds simple but especially as I guy I think it often becomes the easier then to do to just take that on for the sake of others feeling. It can become draining if your not careful and energy is really at a premium these days.

Patiently Waiting.......

I'm calculating. I plan and I prepare..........what would happen if I just let go and let things happen. 

I like to think the things I am dealing with are putting me in a position of struggle to balance the growth and success that is to come. Clearly I try to figure out just what is going on.........it's how I work. It's what I am. I see it around me and can't help but feel a bit stagnant.