Definitely A Belief That I Live By

I'd much rather you elect to walk away and know it was 100% your decision then to beg and have you stay thinking that your doing me a favor. 

When Casual Lovers Become Parents....

It's a situation that more and more folk are dealing with. It's a topic I feel strongly about yet truthfully I've come to keep my views on it to my self as to not hurt feelings. It's the new reality for many in society as it relates to the creation of family. Below is the opening piece of a weekly series about unmarried minority fathers. Check it out it's a good read . It doesn't give answers it just shares experiences......

Having spent three great (albeit tumultuous, on a personal front) years in Chicago, I was about to return to my beloved Brooklyn. Half of my stuff was packed. My moving date was two weeks away. I was scheduled to attend a wedding the following day with an on again/off again lover, whom I had dated fairly consistently when I first moved to Chicago, but now we saw each other every other week or so after having gone through a stretch of time when we had broken up and didn’t get down at all. It seemed like it’d be a chill enough road trip to go with her to her cousin’s wedding – a six-hour jaunt to Cincinnati. But she wanted to talk to me that night, the night before we left – urgently. I couldn’t understand why because we were going to be sitting in a car for six hours the following day. So I meet with her and she drops The News. I’m stunned. She was on the pill. I ask, “What do you want to do?” She says, “Oh, I’m keeping it…”

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No One Way To Success....

I can't remember when a day has gone by that business thoughts haven't filled my mind. It's the core of what I'm focused on and where I what to be. Be it within the Nomadness Tribe, The Omega Nexus or other side ventures I've been blessed to be introduced to a number of ways to make business work. I'm proud to be a part of the next era of transitional young business folk. We're a group breaking free from the belief that the path to success and is only attainable via the road though college degrees and 9-5 jobs. Now while many have come to detest this ideology I make sure not to get to a point of speaking down on those that do pursue this way and who generally like it. As the number of entrepreneurs in my circle increases I often remind folks that not everyone is you. Not everyone is supposed to create and run their own business.

For as many people as I know doing these new exciting things professionally, I know just as many that are perfectly happy with a 9-5 in a field they like and rising their family. We need to be sure not to speak in a condescending manner or indirectly shame those that aren't doing what we do. They are often our biggest supporters. Many speak on society and use terms like "sheep" when in truth many of us come from "sheep" ourselves. They are the parents that came to the U.S and built the life that produced this generation of trend setters, often with multiple 9-5/mainstream jobs.  That's the balance we need. Creators of all kinds and consumers to support them.

I feel that your drive and goals should define you. Yet understand that those goals and how you go about getting them only apply to you. There are many ways to get it. There is no 1 definition of business these days and more importantly there are many, many roads to happiness.  

They Deserve Better

There are lots of topics I have opinions on. Many I'm flexible on in terms of seeing multiple view points and angles. Recently, I've had more then a few convos about kids. My eventual desire to be a father and just parenthood in general. Within those chats always comes up my stance of planning and preparing for a child. It's often replied to with "There's never a perfect time for a child." or "I cant plan for something like that." I majority of the time consider that a cop out. I liken it to high cost purchase like a car or home. You may be in the position to put down a solid down payment but if you're not in a position to pay the monthly fees you will lose it. If you're not responsible enough to properly care for the vehicle or home it will have problems.

I owe it to my future children to be able to provide better then what I've current experienced. To do otherwise is selfish in my eyes. Yes there are exceptions but that is not what I see in today's world. I see sloppy moves covered up by the "I'm an adult" angle.

I dont buy.....I doubt I ever will.

Shanda's Talking But Few Will Listen....

Don't get lost in the after glow.....

Creativity Will NOT be Denied....

It's not just about "Doing it" anyone can get tangled up long enough to climax.....but can you make a real time of it? Creative expression of attraction, affection, dominance, submission, turn it other and let loose......be free to act without recourse....just 1 time...maybe 2 times....

Multiple Baby Fathers.......Is It a Legit Stigma????

It's not all Ill Imagery today. Here's a question for the masses. Multiple women having his kids. A women with multiple fathers to her kids. The Stigma attached to this usually negative and highly judgmental i.e your a statistic. Thoughts on this? Is the stigma warranted? Is it merely circumstantial?

Shanda Says: Holiday Goodies for the Ladies

I know y'all are taking notes. ;)

When a Beautiful Woman Get's Ugly Body Art.....

...not even Batman can't hide disappointment.

Business, never personal......

...wish it was that easy. Many times the decision you need/have to make is not what you want to make.

My New York Knicks are Just Fine w/o LBJ but Imagine....

....If he had made the right decision.

Sometimes I just Can't

I'm not one for censoring myself but as most people know I do believe in a time and place for everything. I come across many interesting story, images in addition to my own life that could make for great blog topics, but there are times when my true sensitivity comes into play and I decide that the chance of sparking conversation isn't worth the continued push of negativity. By this I mean that if I see an image that disturbs me I may simply leave it where it is rather then give it more life by presenting it to more of the public. Disrespect of the elderly, child abuse....I'd rather link to a guy getting crushed by a construction vehicle then show something like the image that gave birth this blog. It's funny cuz what touches me may not touch you. Sensitivity is relative. I don't know, I look at other larger blogs and I realize that it a certain disregard for rules or morals that draws in the masses.

That's ok....I'll be ok with being me and avoid certain types of negative energy.

Something for the Heat

I know I'm always talking about fitness and what not but in the end you gotta love ya self for who you are.

So here's a lil summer time post I came across with some full figured sizzle. And I'll say this now, I ain't bad at the writer....call this a Pre-Hump Day Post.

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Menage a Talks Returns.....We're going In

Goddess returns with another session of Menage a Talks. This time she's gotten her hands of Adult Film star Jayla who will give a insiders view of a world many people seem to be increasingly interested in.

The fun goes down this Wednesday June 9th @10 P.M Eastern Standard Time.

Listen to internet radio with Menage a Talks on Blog Talk Radio

After the jump is a recent interview to intro you to Jayla a lil bit.

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InterMind -914 The Mental space of Flame

This what my mind is like. Infinite pathways each filled with endless thoughts and ideas. While this is the state I'm very much used to. I think its time to clear this up a lil bit.

Did I Do That?

Simple Hump Day Question.

Did you ever do something or allow something to be done to you that in the morning you don't back on and was shock, amazing or surprised at????

Hmmmmmm????????

Balance.....Focus......Control......AARRRGGHHH!!!

I'm trying but for some reason I'm an explosion of (sexual) energy and I have no good way to channel it. I'm just trying to keep busy today without gettin' my self worked up. Evita says it may be increase in working out that has me like this.Or it may be that I had an out of town guest this past week that always stirs things up.....I dont know....I'll do my best.

Keep ya damn pill......

Things I've seen, things I've heard have pushed me to a new stance. I don't trust Birth Control. My stance is that ANY circumstance where you as a man are willing to splash off naturally with a female your taking a gamble as to what may happen. Yes statisically the odds on B.C are more likely in the favor of avoiding a pregnancy but truthfully if your not with a person you could at least see as a suitable parent and someone you'd want a part of the reminder of your life I wouldnt do it. I remember that my first girl friend was on it and in my youth stupidity that was the best news in the world. "Yeah!!!! No condom needed!!!!".......So young and dumb.

The thought process is much bigger then just health with the immediate partner but rather life. What do you want for your life. The big picture dominates over any momentary pleasure. Even in a relationship I would not NOT use a condom unless I was that serious in what potential I saw in a person.

It's almost funny now in hearing guys that complain about the need to use protection. It's like damn you really missing forest for the trees man.

Maybe this is why I'm so Pro Skullduggery.lol