This was inspired by my previous "Pedestal Post"
It seems like when treated like the fairer sex, guys often receive the "stop treating me like I'm weak" reply and in turn if treated really equal to standards to men we get "Eww I'm a girl I don't do that". Feel free to insert your own phrases if those didnt work for you. But basically I notice men(myself included) at times trying to balance the steadily growing forces of female empowerment vs. natural femininity. So I want to hear it from y'all. As women I know you can basically do everything we guys do. No ones disputing that. But don't you miss chivalry? Don't you miss being treated as a princess to some degree? Being thought highly of simply for what a female is? Once again I may just be old school?
How do y'all see the balance?What do you love about being feminine?Both in respect yourselves and to men.I'm not speaking sexually, just day to day interactions. Define femininity to me and how you would ideally want it to be seen by men?
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Fairer Sex vs. Amazon Woman
Posted by NightFall914 at 11:46 AM
Labels: Amazons, blogging, Female ways, Housewifes, THOUGHTS, Views
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You make a very valid point. The idea of the "independant woman" has been driven to extremes, the cause can be attributed to both sides, but that is neither here nor there. Before I state my opinion I believe that there are both sides to this in the sense that, there are women who expect a man to do all things for them, just as there are women who expect nothing of a man, both extremes. While there may be men who like you, who see the extreme independant woman who seems go gaff at chivalry, you would also look at the women who are the princesses and perhaps have an opposing view like be a little more independant.
I think of it like this..I want a man to respect the fact that I can take care of myself, do things for myself, and perhaps maybe even do some things better than him lol...but I don't want him to use that as an excuse to not treat me as a princess in certain circumstances. Now that is partially going to be my responsibilty because if I'm spouting off "I'm independend you don't need to do anything for me", well then I sabataoged myself. Besides a lot of that stuff for women is a defense mechanism. If a man has good intentions and we know that, we let our guard down and give a little of that control away. Fear holds women back..fear of being let down, fear of being perceived the wrong way.
The balance between femininity and independence is confidence. Confident in who you are that you can assume either "role" and still be YOU.
Well said Jillz. I agree whole heartedly. I believe that you can BE independent, and outwardly so, yet STILL expect to be treated like a QUEEN. Not a princess.
Women have had to become more like ' super woman ' as a result of men being LESS of our "super men". The type of woman you become is set forth based upon your experiences in life and with mates. If you have men who have treated you like a queen your entire life then a man who is used to independent women wouldn't be suitable for you. Reason being, he'll call you clingy, and co-dependent. When REALLY you're just being you.
On the other hand a supremely independent woman wouldn't be suited for a man who is super old school because she may see it as an INSULT.
The first time a man opened my car doors/door to resturant, I almost went BALLISTIC! Like, I know how to open my door! lol and he wasn't doing it for that reason. I was just used to a different type or man.
You have to find the balance that's right for you because you can't catagorize or do a sweeping generalization of what women want or feel about this subject. It's different for different women from different walks of life and with different experiences. :)
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