So earlier in the month I wrote about trimmin' down the amount of I deal with. More so holding my friends accountable for their ends of the friendship. So one of these important folk that I took a big step back from contacted me on Sunday. Well replied to me cause I pushed a happy birthday message to her through her daughter. I'm not rude so if I'm down for you I'll still so some birthday love. Anyway, I got a thank u message and a small back and forth ensued. Basically the 4 months of silence is replied to with I was sending you messages but not getting any reply.......sorry I dont buy it. This person had hit me twice in 4 month and each time was only when I went through her daughter. I mean hell she could have been dead for all I know. So I'ma find out for curiosity sake what was really up and keep it moving. I'm tired of taking friendship more to heart and more seriously then others. Being made to think that because I actually care that much it's the exception to whats normal.
Ok......rant over.....lol
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Act like you care......
Posted by NightFall914 at 1:43 PM
Labels: bad communication, friendship, imbalance, things I don't like, unfair
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6 comments:
Seems like you have a big heart and sometimes it's being taken for granted and them thinking that you will always be there for them.
I think in the end things will pay off. Maybe your friends do know that you care butt they just haven't gotten time.
I agree with Miss. S.
sometimes folks take advantage of niceness and play on it. They'll get over it.
I agree with the first comment too.
I hate my friends. I really do...especially "best" friends. They disgust me. Are our expectations of our friends too high?
its funny i think back to times when Ive avoided someone & hit them up as a result of someone else or special occasion and its simply because I'm "busy" or because I dont want to let them down...in the past when i was in an unhealthy relationship i avoided friends who i felt had it "all together"..immature YES..but i avoided them because I knew i was a mess...I eventually rekindled my relationship with these ppl...but it took time..so try not to take it personal..this person is prolly going through some things and her actions are coming off as selfish just let her know you're there.
All great points. I'm going to allow myself to remember that it may not be as clear cut as I think. And even though people don't act as would make sense to me it isn't automatically bad.
We'll see what happens....I have to balance some understanding with still holding people accountable for their part in this friendship.
I hate my best friend- lol. She's flighty, her phone is always dead, she never returns calls, never responds to texts, and she is always late to everything. BUT she never forgets my birthday. She lives 5 hours from me and any time I need her she will use her vacation days to drive up and be by my side. She ticks me off daily because she doesn't do ANY of the regular things that I think real friends should do but when I need her the most she's always there. That's how I determine who my true friends are.
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