It's another day, another friend gets engaged or turns up preg.It's interesting to me when someone I know gets a new love interest.I'm generally happy at the news, but when I hear more about it and get more detail my mind is always processing trying to see what the balance is. I'm always looking for the signs of danger vs the signs of promise. Number 1 to me is to see just how high on the priority ladder does the new person get elevated to. I have friends of both sexes who are notorious for making their new "other" the sun of their universe and it worries me every time.
You know the routine. No phone calls, random texts/bbm/emails every once in the blue to see if you're still alive and basic MIA status to everyone that's a mutual friend. That doesn't seem healthy to me. I know love can an overwhelming thing but it's got to have it's place within the grand scheme of things and not become in it self the whole scheme.
This isn't a new topic but I think what makes it stick with me more now it that we're not kids anymore that was one thing in high school and college but I personally want to know that at nearly 30, my people ain't prone to vanish over a pretty face. Things I thought were merely a product of youth are showing themselves to be much stronger.
Just be careful...
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
A current view of Love
Posted by NightFall914 at 3:17 PM
Labels: friendship, life lessons, love hurts, observations, Relationships
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4 comments:
Its funny I think the opposite way...
I expect my preggers/engaged friends to distance theirselves from me...just cause we will have little in common as they start to form their little universes...
I'll check in ask about so and so...but the conversation kinda stops there..its not necessarily a bad thing.
I got an increasing # of single friends to chat it up with lol
But i agree its so important to find that balance...easier said than done.
I wonder why people do this as well. It worries me when I see ppl getting married after knowing someone for 6 months. It bothers me that the person acts as if no one else exist. I feel this!
love is scary. It's ok to be passionate about your significant other, but when your relationship becomes an unhealthy obession, you gotta pump your brakes. I've had friends drift away like that & when the relationship fails, who do they turn to?
Good post. I had a friend who I spoke to everyday w/o fail for years and one day he was just gone for over a month. No contact, no txts, nothing. When we finally caught up, he was "getting to know" someone and so he was devoting his time to that. I found that awfully weird, hurtful, and ridiculous. He couldn't understand why I was "tripping".
People are strange. Great post.
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