So one of my more blunt friends asks me about Christmas. What'd I do, what'd I get and what I got folks. I guess simply common sense brought the conclusion that I gave more then I got.Well that's pretty much the norm but I was asked the question "Doesn't it bother you to not get anything from people you gave to?" After a deep inhale and exhale I had to break it down....
If I gave based on what I received it would never be a real balance.Some folk aren't in the position to give as they may want, some may not express themselves in the manner that I do and honestly some may not think material gifts are warranted towards me.This reminds me of when my mom would question me on things and say "Don't these girls have boyfriends? Shouldn't they be doing these things?" And perhaps she is right to degree but I'm me and this is what I do. All I ever really expect is a legitimate "Thank you and Merry Christmas" If I get an actual gift or a card then its a pleasant surprise.
I sum it up like this and this is an extreme example but it makes the point perfectly.
Jesus loved without limit regardless of if that expression was returned in like manner. Imagine is Jesus said...."Damn.I love and love these humans and I dont even get a hug in return?Screw this I'm going home."
You give to make the recipient's day/life a lil brighter.Once that's done then the mission is accomplished.
Sunday, December 28, 2008
Its a question of giving.......
Posted by NightFall914 at 4:44 PM
Labels: Clarification, Spirit of the Season, THOUGHTS
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I'm glad that you posted this... and you're absolutely right... Giving isn't about reciprocation. ESPECIALLY @ Christmas time. I believe that this theory extends into other aspects of life as well.
... If you give [of yourself] with only the expectation of appreciation of your gift, then you will, more often than not, be fulfilled. If you give [of yourself] with the expectation of something in return or of some sort of recognition, then you'll almost certainly come up short everytime.
The fulfilment comes from knowing that you've done something good for someone else. That's something priceless that is cultivated w/n YOU, the giver.
Some people don't understand that prospect. They may have never had the joy of just seeing someone happy that you helped them out. Or the relief in the face of a someone who didn't know where their next meal would come from, when you hand them a 50 dollar bill or a 20.
... when they do feel it for the first time though.. it's like crack. You just can't get enough...
Anywhooo-- this blog just goes to further show what I've known for a while about you Jason.. That you're a good man and have a great heart.. :)
~Jae
"Once that's done then the mission is accomplished." AMEN!!! I was asked by one of my friends earlier what I did for Xmas and what I got-I told him I GAVE presents to these people and that was even AFTER I knew I'd get nothing in return...He thought I was playing... :D
It's only natural that MOST people think about receiving more than giving. Society has pretty much brainwashed people to think that. Plus it's the whole what have you done for me lately syndrome that is permeated through time. Feast or famine. Only the strong survive.
Givers are perceived as weak.
Of course, you and I, and most people with a brain know that this is not true.
People who think of themselves before others are the type of people I am banning from my life. I enjoy giving, Ive blogged about this before. But the takers, the ones that prey on others, those like me that enjoy giving, suck the life out of the very activity I like to do.
U and I are a lot alike.
Good night.
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