I've always felt that in a relationship you start as 2 individuals and as you progress you slowly and naturally transition into sharing various things and aspects of life. Now this post ain't about anything real deep like sharing bank accounts, keys or the car. I'm talking about online social pages.LOL, yeah I know. Perhaps its just me but I just find them to be corny/creepy. Now maybe that's cuz the idea of a "couples page" is the complete polar opposite of how I express myself in a relationship online but I just find it creepy. The dual communication, typing in the plural tense, everything is now "we". It's like if you share physical space with a person do you need to share digital space too? Does that mean that anything I say to you is now basically being said to him too? I've been in those situations with the over zealous boyfriends that answer the phone for their partners and then question who I am. I'm like "Ok, I called her why am I talking to you?" which then leads me to inform said friend that if you want to reach me you call me. That's a rule me and the Fella's put into play a while ago. Female gets new guy don't call unless it's an emergency.
I could be off but I just think individuality is an important thing to maintain. When I start having trouble knowing where you end and he begins that's a bit much. Don't get me wrong. You shouldn't deny your relationship, never that BUT it shouldn't be presented in a manner that's putting your truest people in a funny position.
I was told of a situation last night that basically boiled to a female attempting to strong arm her room mates into accepting HER boyfriend to move in or she would leave. "If you want me you have to accept him" .....um, I'm not always 100% in agreement with that. If I have a close relationship with you I don't really think I need to "accept" him. He's not my friend. I can be respectful of your relationship but that really all I'm obligated to do if you are him are assholes about it.
I don't know and this blog is starting to ramble.....just thinking out loud I guess.....
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Whats mine is yours?
Posted by NightFall914 at 3:09 PM
Labels: Curious, Damn Internets, Hump day, Jumbled thoughts, Rambling
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2 comments:
I agree with you...sharing digital space is doing the most. Me and Babybottoms dad decided that what happens on Facebook on our pages, is our own business. So if someone is flirting with me, he can't say shat to me because I can't say jack crap to him when he comments on some chick's picture. It's fair and I told him he has the right to question something that looks a little too friendly as long as I have that privilege too.
As far as his 600+ friends know, I'm just another person in his Friendlist and I prefer it that way. I don't want him stalking my page and he most definitely doesn't want me on his page trying to "find" something to start a ruckus about.
As for my friends going on his page, I tell them, don't be trying to insinuate nothing I can't concoct in my own brain myself. Friends have a way of interfering and disturbing your relationship for you....which is why our digital worlds stay SEPARATE. Hell, we share everything else so I think we are allowed this little personal timeout from one another LOL
There has been lost of discussion on couples and social networks lately..many articles written (I've read none)
I'm with Assertive Wit in that I am happy with just being another friend in the online universe of my boo's or in my case "friend's" page.
Online "groupie love" type comments on either of our pages is ok with me..its actually funny to read thru the comments together.
It's just the world wide web, its not real life..if you gotta look for clues on FB & MySpace pages for infidelity and such you should not be in a relationship period. In fact you need a time out in the corner w no internet access and a dunce cap.
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