Lost in the Matrix

When control is lost...when it uses you rather then you utilizing it...the distortion of priorities..... misplacement of value.......

How It's Going Down.....

The year is new and many are speaking of resolutions, plans and goals. I have a few target goals in mind and a few things I'm still formulating in my head. I think as certain aspect of social interaction have changed I need to change as well. This change is needed to have better more efficient dealings with people both online and offline. So what do I want to start doing? Here are a few...

1. Stop repeating things to people. I invite folk to events, inquire about support, show travel deals if I know I person is looking for something and I often time find myself  checking in to see if they have taking advantage of it. That needs to stop. You don't need to remind adults about things they genuinely want to do. You shouldn't have to point, hint or guide a person to do something. So I really see myself mentioning stuff once maybe twice then after that you on your own. 
2. Understand who people are and the fact that most people are NOT changing. I many times hold out hope that people will change. Not even grand changes of personality or belief but simply not changes in how much I depend or better yet expect from them. The people that says "That sounds great lets do it....I'll call you." But never does so. I'd usually try repeatedly because if I see a good thing in a person I'd attempt to cultivate it. No more. If it was of true interest they would react.
3.  Utilize the Mute and Hide features more to achieve my needed online social balance of energy. I've given up on thinking people will alter how they represent themselves on online. The internal human desire to be bigger then we really are is too great. Or folk simply have no ideas as to what it means to self censor in a public place. So I'll simply apply more control over what I allow to appear on my screen.
4. Crawl out of my box. I want to try new things this year. Not sure what those things will be but I wanna introduce a fresh new vibe into my world. And interacting with new people is key to opening some new doors. 
5. I'm still trying to separate the message from the messenger. I just find it hard at times to take certain advise from folk I KNOW aren't living what they're putting out.  

I'm sure I'll be adding on to this but its definitely a start......

Playing with Numbers Via Facebook

So in the 48-72 hours that the random # Question game hit FB. I was unphased for the 1st 2 days then got 2 Inbox hits in the afternoon yesterday. Seeing who they were from It was cute cuz they had clearly seen me communicating about the game with others. The major of that communication was "why are folk so mad?". It became an interesting study for me in terms of how people view the internets socially and that there seems to be this personal elitist viewpoint that what ever "I" post is totally acceptable but others are stupid and immature. Now don't get me wrong there was a similar game that happened maybe a month ago and at first I had the same reaction but them it hit that getting upset about it made no logical sense.

In the end you cant deal in social b.s and fucCery 24/7 and then raise up to look down on another type of fooliness. You have to call it all the same. Are these # games any more a cry for "Attention" then publicly speaking on your private sex life? Ranting about side chicks and hoes all day? Over critiquing the fashion "flaws" of celebs you don't even know? Preaching some high and matter lesson on being mature and grown while you don't really live that life in the real offline world? Interesting thoughts indeed.

#143 (Only one that was FB posted)
It's amazin' how much time it's been when I stop and think about all.
You're a bag of mixed emotions. Ranging from Pride and Admiration to Frustration and Confusion. As someone that doesn't get bothered easily, you've been able to push the buttons a few times.

You have an interesting way of going about things and it's only been recently that I've realized you just have your own way of doing things. In spite of sometimes wondering why I only seem to be around to fix problems vs just enjoying time ...with friend I'd be lying if I said wouldn't still ride for you and make sure you're good. There will always be love over here.And regardless of anything, you handle the most important thing, Taking care of the lil one so I know your focus and heart are right.


#43

You may be one of the most connected people I know and honestly I still have no idea what it is you really do. You could pop up and be like "I just bought a crib in Miami I'll see you later" and I wouldn't question it. Your tough girl exterior is cute although It's better when it's dropped. The Southpaw thing 2 weeks ago had me TIGHT but I got over it quickly. Your schedule is something else but I know it's cuz you grinding. Keep making moves and maybe we'll cross paths when you're not bein sought after by your rapper friends. :) Boss!!!
So much for that....

I dare you....

It's highly disturbing to me the difference between what is said through the wire vs what is actually said through the air......the internet breeds larger digital balls.

Adjusting to the growing role of the Social Internets

I'm finding my self more and more over saturated with social media. It's a constant balancing act for someone like me who craves up to date information yet has no real desire to know EVERY thought in a friends mind. I was telling someone that no person is 100% likable. In terms of friends, we have people who agree or are similar to us on a majority of the high value points we have or common interests to warrant interaction. But even your friends, hell your family as well think things that if you knew them would turn you off.

In my opinion, before online socializing it was more likely that you wouldn't learn of this negative traits/thoughts/habits because the expressive channels were limited. You had no way to know what was on a friends mind as they sit on the toilet, party in a club or are on a date. Notice these are all examples that don't really need to have a person updating online status' but we all do it or have done it. It adds to overkill if you ask me. Without purposely trying to do so I end up with little formulas for how I deal with things.

In regards to the online world I have ratios for people. The ratio of useless vs useful, insightful vs. generic, interesting vs. stupid, etc,etc,etc....In addition to that anyone that gets on a roll of consecutive posts about the same thing may result in my cutting off my access to them for awhile. It's really nothing personal I'm just picky when it comes to communication. After awhile I say to myself "Ok I get it!!!" It's similar to how BET re runs the BET Awards 15 damn times. Eventually it does get redundant.


But anyway in the end I think we do need balance of how much we put out and how much we take in. I mean whats worst, the fact that I who you had a booty call with last night or the fact that you actually give that information out to the general public?

The Power of "Print Scn".Aint no rules in this.

I've seen it in a few instances.I've seen it done by folk who don't know that I know. And I always wonder, do we own anything that is displayed on our screen. If I'm chatting or in an IM with you do you have assumed ownership of whats on the screen. Is it a matter of, "Well you're willing doing or saying it so I have all the rights to copy it?" Many people do believe that.
How would you feel is conversation of any type was copied and posted publically without your express permission?