The Sweet Embrace of Instability

I'm a man. I seek the able to be stable for a number of primal reasons. But I think I've taken on a bit of Ms Evita Robinson energy. What I mean is there is no one I know that stares down sudden change and volatility like her. Now I the season slides from summer to fall I'm in a familiar spot of upcoming change. This was a summer of great things that went down, but many things should have happened that didn't. I saw my skills at their best and simultaneously I saw them overlooked and under appreciated.

I'm breathing in deep.....just ready for change......on all levels....... 

Blog Challenge Day 8

 
I'm supposed to post something I hate about myself......Sorry maybe 16 yrs ago that might result in something or maybe even 10, hell maybe even 5yrs. But today I'm good.

Y'all were kicking him in Year 1.......

....and in year 2 Obama is gettin' it in and making change. He was never the messiah that many were making him out to be but he was never the Anti-Christ either and 1/2 way through his 1st term I can say that I have personally seen his moves improve my family. From the addition adult grants for education that allowed and paid for my moms extra schooling to the overall improvement in the employment situation that gave me my new job, I've seen change.



I just want to hear some positive support to balance everyone's gripes back in 2009.There's still massive work to be done but lets acknowledge whats been done.

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Embrace Insanity.

I'm an avid P90X user but I've gone thru it a few times and while it works great I personally have to keep things changing to stay on point. So this is the next challenge. Insanity! I hear it's a real hectic workout so it'll be great to flip between this and P90X. I think I'll jump start this mid March. After my Birthday gets a lil celebration time. ;)

Making a list.....checking it twice.......

I'm so in a mind frame reinvention and recreation right now.I'm compiling things to put into action soon. This openness to the future is really helping me get a grasp on the things going on around me. All aspects of me are up for review and upgrade.....such a work in progress.

Rambling....

Back at home.......Allowing thoughts to drift and questions to fester. After a refreshing guys night out. I return with a mind that is open to what I have to change within myself to bring about improvement. I look at my interactions with people and I wonder why I do think the way I do? What must be altered to get better results. Who should be cut off, who should I communicate less with or who requires a change in handling. It always makes me pause how the pursuit is only for happiness to be felt yet so many times it results in me with my head down, falling just short of my goal. I'm all encompassing in terms of my thought process, memories and actions. It's a natural reaction for me to think of how my actions have effects that go beyond me and may effect those that matter most to me. Yet on many occasions I don't see that in others. Most actions I witness seem to occur with no further interest other then the immediate reaction to them. This is usually the case because when I introduce the pretty simply connection between their moves and my reactions I got "oh" and "I never thought of that"....this makes me wonder, is ignorance bliss?

Would I be more content if I scaled back my range of my thoughts? Should I be more self centered? Man that would be so hard to do. To flip that which has been instilled in me for the majority of my life at this point and time would be difficult. It is truly a major part of what I define myself by. It is very much what makes me me. Balance, that's what I'm looking for. I've had many personal experiences this year that while I haven't had the crazy heart breaks of years past, life has continued to test my and emotional commitments. Am I ready to settle down, I'd like that to end up as my goal but that isn't where I am just yet. A man not fully accepting of him self and his position will not be the partner and provider he should and could be.

My wants are simple.....Happiness and Love. My demand is basic.....Respect.My needs are everlasting.......God and Family. I'll keep working and embracing all that is me.The good, the bad and ugly. And I'll try to focus a lil more on me and see what that gets me.....

Apparently 2K9 = Acountibility

So its Jan. 2nd and already their seems to be a major theme for the new year and it is Accountability. It would seem that with so many of the powers that be in flux and uncertainty that the power of "self" is rising bacC to the forefront. People are creating SOLUTIONS instead of resolutions and are creating systems to hold themselves and their loved ones accountable. This is a trend I could really get into. As it stands I have fitness goals to reach, Literary goals, social/traveling goals ad that's not to mention the business goals. OK, lets not talk about.....just be about it. Drop by my south western partner in crime too. She's one of the MAIN people that will be keeping an eye on me.


In addition to all this is the greater need to focus.The guys got LifeHacCer have this to share.

R.I.P "Dating"..........Damn Kids

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/12/13/opinion/13blow.html?_r=1&em=&adxnnl=1&adxnnlx=1229453673-VqsytiyRa5q2+mVuqnqE8A


The paradigm has shifted. Dating is dated. Hooking up is here to stay.
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(For those over 30 years old: hooking up is a casual sexual encounter with no expectation of future emotional commitment. Think of it as a one-night stand with someone you know.)

According to a report released this spring by Child Trends, a Washington research group, there are now more high school seniors saying that they never date than seniors who say that they date frequently. Apparently, it’s all about the hookup.

When I first heard about hooking up years ago, I figured that it was a fad that would soon fizzle. I was wrong. It seems to be becoming the norm.

I should point out that just because more young people seem to be hooking up instead of dating doesn’t mean that they’re having more sex (they’ve been having less, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) or having sex with strangers (they’re more likely to hook up with a friend, according to a 2006 paper in the Journal of Adolescent Research).

To help me understand this phenomenon, I called Kathleen Bogle, a professor at La Salle University in Philadelphia who has studied hooking up among college students and is the author of the 2008 book, “Hooking Up: Sex, Dating and Relationships on Campus.”

It turns out that everything is the opposite of what I remember. Under the old model, you dated a few times and, if you really liked the person, you might consider having sex. Under the new model, you hook up a few times and, if you really like the person, you might consider going on a date.

I asked her to explain the pros and cons of this strange culture. According to her, the pros are that hooking up emphasizes group friendships over the one-pair model of dating, and, therefore, removes the negative stigma from those who can’t get a date. As she put it, “It used to be that if you couldn’t get a date, you were a loser.” Now, she said, you just hang out with your friends and hope that something happens.

The cons center on the issues of gender inequity. Girls get tired of hooking up because they want it to lead to a relationship (the guys don’t), and, as they get older, they start to realize that it’s not a good way to find a spouse. Also, there’s an increased likelihood of sexual assaults because hooking up is often fueled by alcohol.

That’s not good. So why is there an increase in hooking up? According to Professor Bogle, it’s: the collapse of advanced planning, lopsided gender ratios on campus, delaying marriage, relaxing values and sheer momentum.

It used to be that “you were trained your whole life to date,” said Ms. Bogle. “Now we’ve lost that ability — the ability to just ask someone out and get to know them.”

Now that’s sad.