The Reason I Believe Marriage Still Works.....

The world or at least America is a different place then it was in 1979. That was the year my parents got married. Today all I hear about are the raising divorce rates, disgruntled single parents and the continuous mutations of what people view as "relationships". With all this happening it's understandable why folk seem so jaded towards the idea of marriage in its classic form. I'm blessed that I don't have that issue. No one has broken my heart to the point of abandoning love and most importantly I have the greatest example of love's success front  of me.

Today my parents celebrate 34 yrs of marriage!!

Happy Anniversary Mom & Dad!!!!

Married or not you should read this...

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

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Marriage Via The Bible?????

....Thoughts

Shanda Breaks Down For The Ring Chasers

I'ma meet Shanda one day y'all just watch. lol Anyway, take notes as Shanda does her thing.

Monogamy and Infidelity

A collective and young adults get speak on a number of topics related to Monogamy, Infidelity and more.
Peep Part 2 after the Jump.....

Shout Out to Ms. Dash!!!!

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Quick Thoughts to the Fairy Tale That Wasn't

New York Sentiment????

Surprised? Nope

Unfortunate? Maybe

Funny? A little

Personally Offended? Not at all

For a much more In Depth look hop over here.

Longest Married Couple in the World

Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher have an extraordinary story to tell.  They’ve been married for 86 years. Together, they endured the Great Depression, World War II, the Korean War, Cuban Missile Crisis and Vietnam, they have seen the impact of the Civil Rights Movement, watched man land on the moon, the dropping of the atomic bomb, lived through the terms of 15 presidents and still live to tell about it.  But there are many centenarians for whom the same holds true so what makes Herbert and Zelmyra so extraordinary?  Throughout everything, they have remained married.
Married on May 13, 1924, 105-year old Herbert, and 103-year-old Zelmyra do not pretend to know any secrets to a lasting marriage.  They have been married longer than any known living couple, had five children and have watched countless grandchildren and great-grandchildren come into the world.  They are a sweet, aging pair that will tell you truthfully that they were married because Zelmyra “did not give [Herbert] any trouble” and Herbert “was not much to look at… [but] he was quiet and kind.”  After 86 years, they remain in the home where they raised their five children, sleep in different bedrooms and love each other all the same.  They hold the world record for length of marriage for two living persons.  Is your union built to last the test of time?
Marriage Advice:
Question: You got married very young – how did u both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?
Answer: Everyone who plants a seed & harvests the crop celebrates together. We are individuals, but accomplish more together.
Question: At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?
Answer: Remember marriage is not a contest – never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win.

32 Years Strong!!!!

Today my parents celebrate 32 yrs of Marriage. When all the non sense of the world tells you a happy marriage is a fairy tale, I have the proof right here. 

Happy Anniversary Mom & Dad!!!

Random Thoughts Towards The Future.

When looking for big picture life potential in a person what do you look for. Or perhaps I should ask what do you ideally want? Exit the Ideal and enter Reality. What do you see in the people around you? I’ve held this thought that I’ve already met my wife but I may not know it yet….or maybe I know it but haven’t realized it yet. Either way what do I see around me that a wife would need to have? I’m blessed to have earned the friendship of a few great women so I look at their traits and say to myself “Yeah I hope my wife has some of that.” Do women do that? Look at guy friends and analyze their husband-like potentials? I think we all very easily can say what you like in a person but as time goes on I think you too more clearly see what you don’t like and honestly realize what things you can’t or won’t compromise on that you require in your life.

I think personally, that I have such a high level of value on marriage and that type of commitment that it has me that much more patient in prepping for that stage of life. I truly intend on a one shot deal. No multiple wives for me so when it’s that time it must be right. It’s more then just Love to make it work. That’s one of the biggest life lessons that I’ve learned. There is a need for finance in romance, along with timing and desire. Interest brings you to the door, love keeps you their but there are so many other factors that make it possible to succeed. You can truly love someone that you can’t have a fully successful relationship with. How hard must that be to accept?

That’s truly why we say that there’s someone for everyone. We many times base it on the physical but that lesser attractive person may be the only one that makes you smile or the only to be able to check you when your on some b.s. There’s no script to it.

T.I Expresses Just What Tiny Means To Him

Many people are quick to take shots at Tiny, usual on her appearance but with all that said many of the people poppin' off about her wish they had someone to declare the things about them that T.I does in the newest issue of XXL mag.

Can’t say enough about how special of a woman I have. It takes a lot to endure the worst of times and still stay grounded during the best of times. She’s been able to do so for long as I can remember. For all that and more, I just adore her in every way. I love her spirit, her heart, her integrity and her loyalty. She’s the love of my life and the girl of my dreams. I’ve heard so much about it being hard for true love to exist in the fast lanes of Hollywood, when dudes can’t stay respectfully committed and chicks can’t stay out their man’s pockets. But somehow she makes it easy, and we never had those problems. Some women can’t keep up with their men and other can’t seem to slow theirs down. She’s shown that she can do both in grand fashion. A man like couldn’t ask for a better match. When the world has turned on me and there is darkness all around, she finds a way to bring light in my life and provide positive energy in the face of some of the most extreme circumstances. As long as we have us, fuck da world….nothing else really matters. I’d lay my life down for her and wouldn’t blink about it. In my eyes, she’s the most beautiful woman inside and out. I wouldn’t trade her for all the sun on the beach. As much as I’ve done wrong in life, I’m convinced that I must’ve done something right to deserve a woman as great as her. And I’ll forever do all I can to continue to show my undying love and appreciation.

If you know me then you know how much I respect that bold line....

SCOOP SAYS: THERE SHOULD BE A WORLD WIDE AGE LIMIT ON HAVING SEX AND BABIES

While I don't know about the legalized governing of sex itself I'd be lying if I didn't say that a lil more regulation towards having kids might not be such a bad idea.

Her Finger Is Not Your Business

You ever witness this? Among a group of people at a social gathering, introductions are being mad small talk and chit chat happens and as people are finding out about each other the following happens.

Jessica : "Ooooh so how long have you been together?"

Couple: "About (fill in the blank) years."

Jessica : "That's great are you Married?"

Couple : "No (laughing)"

Jessica : "Engaged?"

Couple : "Umm *looks at ringless fingers* not officially engaged."

Jessica : "Damn. When you gonna put a ring on it!?!?"

***Awkward Silence all around***

Now the words may vary from convo to convo BUT you get the idea. Is it just me but I think that a public questioning a couples time line or plan is NEVER proper. Beyond the "how long have you been together" line I feel that anything else is on the couple to say. I know society feels the marriage is expected but even so it's not anyone's business but them. And when you have couples that have been together for extended periods of time I think common sense should lead you to know NOT to question it.

Interesting Man Marriage Stats.....

I see truth in a lot of this information.

IS HE OLD ENOUGH TO MARRY?
This survey uncovered some interesting facts. The first was that there is an age when a man is ready to marry-the Age of Commitment. The age varies from man to man, but there are patterns that are easily identified:

* Most men who graduate from high school start thinking of marriage as a real possibility when they are twenty-three or twenty-four.
* Most men who graduate from college don’t start considering marriage as a real possibility until age twenty-six.
* When men go to graduate school, it takes them longer to get into the working world, and they’re not ready to get married until a few years after that.
* Ninety percent of men who have graduated from college are ready for the next step between ages twenty-six and thirty-three; this is when they are most likely to consider marriage. But this window of opportunity stays open only for four to five years, and then the chances a man will marry start to decline.
* A majority of college graduates between twenty-eight and thirty-three are in their high-commitment years and likely to propose.
* This period for well-educated men lasts just a bit over five years. The chances men will commit are sightly less when they are thirty-one or thirty-two than when they were between twenty-eight and thirty, but they’re still in a high-commitment phase.
* Once men reach thirty-three or thirty-four, the chances they’ll commit start to diminish, but only slightly. Until men reach thirty-seven, they remain very good prospects.
* After age thirty-eight, the chances they will ever marry drop dramatically.
* The chances that a man will marry for the first time diminish even more once he reaches forty-two or forty-three. At this point, many men become confirmed bachelors.
* Once men reach age forty-seven to fifty without marrying, the chances they will marry do not disappear, but they drop dramatically.

Full Article Here

Not feeling Marriage???....Reply Vlogington Here

Take a few moments for the original vid then hit the jump for my reply.

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Where there are church bells.......

It's wedding season and coming off this past weekend of celeb vow making and the weekend prior witnessing the marriage of one of my cousins perhaps I'm a lil sensitive this this topic. Sensitive in that, very few moments in life have the meaning of power of a wedding. What woman doesn't forward to that big day. The reality of this world is that many a female inches toward it but never gets there. But when someone does finally get there the last thing needed is the day after critics and boo birds that always have something negative to say about things.


Right now let's look at the T.I & Tiny marriage to illustrate my point. A long term relationship that includes money, kids and unfortunately jail time(on more then 1 occasion). This is very similar to quite a few circumstance of people we all know and very ever get married. Denying the odds Mr & Mrs Harris made it official. Wedding and then an industry bash on South Beach. Tiny came prepare with 2 dress for the events.

As the internets murmured about the wedding you know what I kept reading from females on the matter, in conjunction with the usual A.Keys bashing? How could Tiny have her titties all out, she's classless, what a hoe, Chelsea's wedding with how its supposed to be done, blah, blah, yack, yack, bitter ass talking........


I'ma be honest I don't really rant vs. females but this just rubbed me the rub way for a few reasons.

1. This is that's woman's day. With all the drama Ting has been thru, holding TIP down, raising kids, aiding her sick father yet she's a hoe? She's without class? Really?

2. She's an entertainer be real. She had her gown and then had a party dress are we really getting at a busty for having cleavage at her party in hot ass Miami???

3. Aren't y'all usually getting at females for not making him "Put a Ring on It" and when he does this is how you react?

4. You ain't helping your own chances with all that negative energy. Keep in mind that most females eventually want to be in that brides shoes so that means to point in need one of us men to want you and all that b.s coming out the mouth is a major turn off. The inability to show happiness in some form for others is not something a man what's around.

That's a lot to lose.......

What is it that makes a person decide to move in with or invite their partner to move in with them? I ask this not even considering marriage because that is pretty self explanatory. But what makes younger folk shack up? To date I can say I've never been moved to want to take that step seriously. Could I see it? Well, yeah in the best periods of a relationship I can see many things but once reality settles back in I admit to myself that I need my space. I want my space and the idea of waking up to some one every morning is more major a lifestyle change than I could handle at the moment. I imagine disagreements where I need space and having to leave the crib for air because hey we both live here now.

The ability to have 100% control of a space.....your space is such an important part of me right now. I've heard other speak on co-habitation and it's so interesting to me. I guess the emotions are such that in my head I connect living with a female directly into wanting marriage. It goes hand in hand.

I've felt it before during the young puppy love of my long distance relationship some 9-10 years ago so I know the sway that love has on things.

I dont know its just a hell of a step and I'm always curious at those that have no problem just giving up their space just like that for their "other half". Maybe you do have to see it that way....to understand it.

Before Rumors got too crazy, The "talk" gets Confirmed.Swizz & Alicia starting a family.

Not the best mental picture of these two gettin' it in but in the end Love never is what we imagine. I never would have guess this is how it'd happen but for them and that child I hope things work out.

Official STuff Via MissInfo

Happy Anniversary Mom & Dad

31 years strong......

Open Marriage Humpington?????

I think I've spoken before on my disagreement with open marraiages. I would never tell a couple that practices this that their wrong but in my view it wouldn't work for me. It defeats the purpose. So anyway apparently Monika touched on this subject for an upcoming magazine interview.

“Let me say this: I have not had sex outside my marriage with Sidney,”

Despite her constant claims of an open union with hubby Sidney Hicks, Mo’Nique reveals that she doesn’t stray – but she may not be able to say the same about her better half.

“Let me say this: I have not had sex outside my marriage with Sidney,” the Academy Award nominee says in this year’s 29th – and final – Barbara Walters Oscar special.

“Could Sid have sex outside of his marriage with me? Yes. That’s not a deal-breaker. That’s not something that would make us say, ‘Pack your things and let’s end the marriage.’”

And what if the “Precious” star discovered that Hicks had, well, stepped out more than once? No sweat.

“What if it’s 20 times?” asks the open-minded actress. “So what? We’ve been best friends for over 25 years, and we truly know who we are. Oftentimes, people get into marriages and they don’t know who they’re laying next to. I’m very comfortable and secure with my husband.”

It comes off as very insecure to me.I mean who wouldn't rush to get married if you could still get ya pleasure from other people?

Via Necole Bitchie & NY Daily News

I wonder if this was Beyonce's reaction????

As a very vocal supporter of all things skullduggerous. It put a real smile on my sile to see this lil story in my email. I truly could care less about the fact that it's Hilary Duff, but to see that on top of the apparent joy that comes with engagement, Ms Duff wasted little to show just how appreciative she was. I'm sure the fact the ring was a cool Million didnt hurt either.


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